I had a friend once tell me that she used her jealousy and envy like a searchlight to show her what she wanted. I like that a lot! I also try to think of ways that publishing is not zero sum (sure, parts of it are, but most of the time you and your friend weren’t really competing for the sole X or Y), and instead how freaking happy I am when good things happen for people I care about.
everything you said is true and it really feels like envy when others get more success than us!
I had a friend once tell me that she used her jealousy and envy like a searchlight to show her what she wanted. I like that a lot! I also try to think of ways that publishing is not zero sum (sure, parts of it are, but most of the time you and your friend weren’t really competing for the sole X or Y), and instead how freaking happy I am when good things happen for people I care about.
that's a great to look at it!